Anchorage reader asks how to restart dating life at 60

An Anchorage woman is seeking advice on how to re-enter the dating world after a three-decade marriage ended. She is 60 years old, healthy, and employed. Her main challenge is finding single men in her age group.

The reader, who signs her letter 'Starting Over at 60,' spent 30 years with her husband. She described their early years as happy and joyful. Over time, her spouse became bitter, withdrawn, and critical. They attempted counseling twice but determined they were no longer compatible. The divorce finalized her status as a single person.

She notes that most men in her neighborhood are either married, mourning a late wife, or content as bachelors. Her social circle offers little support. All her female friends are married, with the exception of one widow who has vowed never to remarry. This isolation makes it difficult to discuss her new status.

Columnist Annie responds by noting that the reader is in a strong position. Being healthy, employed, and well-liked are advantages that outweigh age. The expert suggests that the reader does not need a lifestyle overhaul. She already possesses social skills and an openness to new people.

Annie recommends specific local activities where single men are present. These include church services, volunteer shifts, pickleball leagues, and hiking clubs. The advice is to choose activities the reader enjoys regardless of romantic prospects. The column also suggests asking married friends for introductions to their husbands' single friends. This approach may be less awkward than meeting strangers cold.

In a separate inquiry, an office worker asks about a missed holiday card exchange. The reader, who signs as 'Scrooged,' took Christmas week off last year for the first time in decades. She sent cards to her colleagues before leaving but received none in return. She feels ignored and hurt by the lack of reciprocation.

Annie advises that the reader should not overthink the situation. It is possible the colleagues overlooked her because she was away, or they skipped the exchange entirely. The columnist suggests sending cards to people the reader genuinely wants to wish well this year. She recommends giving without keeping score to maintain the spirit of the holidays.